5 Lies They Tell New Moms: Spoiler, It’s Not Like That

Motherhood is not one size fits all; it’s custom-fit. Defy the lies, trust yourself, and embrace your truth. Here’s how to navigate the myths, lean on your village, and find what works for you.

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Lie 1: There’s No Time for You 💜

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The Lie: Moms are told they’ll never have time for themselves again.

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The Truth: You do have time—you just have to prioritize it.

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Tip: Think about your priorities, and make time for them.

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Motherhood is about prioritization. Whether it’s taking a shower, going for a walk, or sneaking away for a manicure, what matters most is what you decide to prioritize.

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Kendall from Villie shares:

“I showered every single day after my baby was born. Why? Because I prioritized it. When I felt ready to leave the house, I got my nails done—and I made time for it.”

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How Your Village Can Help:

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Use your village to create space for you. A Villie Baby Page is the perfect way to organize help:

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• Ask friends to babysit for an hour while you take a break.
• Let your partner or a family member take over for a bit—your village wants to help!

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Lie 2: You Need All the Things

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The Lie: You must buy all the gadgets and toys.

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The Truth: Your baby doesn’t need everything Instagram says they do.

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Tip: If you don’t see the point of a gadget, chances are there isn’t one.

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Babies are born minimalists. They need you, not a room filled with overpriced toys and unnecessary gadgets.

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• Talking, singing, and reading to your baby are the best “toys” for their development.
• Skip the $200 diaper pail and the “smart” monitor—your baby won’t know the difference.

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How Your Village Can Help:

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Instead of filling your registry with items you might not need, use your Villie Baby Page to ask for exactly what works for you. You can:

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• Set up a cash fund for essentials like diapers or baby gear you truly need.
• Ask for secondhand items—your village may have baby carriers or toys that are gently loved and free!
• Ask for recommendations from friends who are new moms.

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Lie 3: Breastfeeding Is Always Magical (and Easy) 🌟

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The Lie: Breastfeeding is easy, and it’s the only way to feed your baby.

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The Truth: Feeding is a unique journey for every family.

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Tip: Feed your baby however works for you—bottle, breast, formula, or all three.

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No two feeding journeys are alike. Some moms have a surplus of milk; others may struggle to produce enough. What matters is that your baby is fed and you’re mentally and physically well.

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Melissa from Villie shares:

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“I did it all—breastfed, pumped, and used formula. It was hard, but I found a routine that worked for me.”

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How Your Village Can Help:

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Lean on your village for feeding support:

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• Ask for lactation consultant recommendations.
• Get tips on what worked for other moms—but remember, your journey is your own.
• Let someone cook you a meal while you focus on feeding your baby.

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Lie 4: You’re Not You Anymore After You Become a Mom 💪

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The Lie: Becoming a mom means losing your identity.

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The Truth: You’re still you—just a more evolved version.

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Tip: You don’t have to mourn the old you. Celebrate the new you.

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Motherhood enhances who you are; it doesn’t erase you. You’re still the same person—just stronger, more resilient, and more amazing.

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Kim from Villie shares:

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“I’m not a new me. I’m a better me. Motherhood didn’t erase me; it leveled me up.”

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How Your Village Can Help:

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Let your village remind you of you. Use your Villie Baby Page to:

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• Ask for help with things you loved pre-baby—like setting up a yoga class or a coffee date with friends.
• Share updates that celebrate you—your wins, your highs, and your growth as a mom.

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Lie 5: You’re Alone 🤝

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The Lie: Motherhood is isolating, and you have to do it all by yourself.

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The Truth: You’re never alone—your village is there for you.

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Tip: Build your support system before you have the baby and ask for help—it takes a village for a reason.

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Motherhood can feel isolating, but it doesn’t have to be. Your partner, family, friends, and even your neighbors can be your biggest cheerleaders if you let them.

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How Your Village Can Help:

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Lean on your free Villie Baby Page to stay connected:

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• Share updates with friends and family who can’t be there in person.
• Organize meal trains or babysitting schedules.
• Ask for advice, referrals, or just an encouraging word when you need it.

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Help Break Down the Myths! Share Your Truth

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Every mom’s journey is unique. These “lies” may resonate with you—or they may not. What’s important is finding your truth. Motherhood isn’t about meeting societal expectations; it’s about doing what works for your family and embracing the amazing person you already are.

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Build & Nurture Your Support Network with Villie 💜

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Motherhood isn’t meant to be done alone. Use your free Villie Baby Page to help navigate this incredible journey:

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• Ask Questions: Tap into the wisdom of your village for advice and support.
• Share Updates: Keep loved ones in the loop with milestones and progress.
• Raise a Cash Fund: Let friends and family pitch in for essentials or self-care.

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Ready to focus on what matters most? Your Villie Baby Page is just a click away.

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Final Thoughts

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Motherhood doesn’t have to be defined by myths or societal expectations. It’s your journey, and you get to write the rules. Defy the lies, trust your instincts, and celebrate the amazing mom you are. You’ve got this! 💜

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